Got some disturbing news recently concerning a friend of a friend. I knew of him but didn't know him personally. He had dedicated his life to working with developmentally disabled young people at a nationally known center in Warwick, RI. He was gentle and kind, he was able to connect with people - especially the young people he worked with. His clients, their families, and his co-workers thought highly of him - his clients actually loved him. He was 25 years old, and had worked at the center for 5 years.
As is the case with some young, sensitive and caring people, he would occasionally be made fun of by people with more dominant personality traits. Unfortunately, one of them was a female co-worker. One day recently, he became tired of her taunts and told her to "shut up, you fat bitch". It was between the two of them and there were no witnesses (although there are plenty of witnesses to her taunts of him). She didn't like him standing up for himself, so she did what all bullies do - she swore revenge.
Shortly after the incident, she filed a sexual harassment complaint against him with their employer. Acting on her word alone, the center suspended him.
The center was his life. He was crushed, felt as if his life was over, and that he couldn't fight back. His friends and co-workers, who knew the claim was frivolous, urged him to relax and told him that the incident would soon blow over. His friends at the center were certain that the truth would come out soon, and that he would be reinstated quickly. They left him in an apparently good mood about 6:00pm Friday night - he didn't want to go out.
His mother found him the next morning. He had suffocated himself with a plastic bag. He was certain that his life was over after a demonstrably false accusation was made against him and an immediate suspension was handed out by a politically correct administrator. He was so certain his life was over that he ended it himself.
The bully who made the accusation actually showed up at his wake yesterday. Their co-workers had to be restrained from taking action against her.
I have known women who have falsely accused men of rape or sexual and domestic assault. They have done it to "get back at him, to make him scared" as one ex-friend of mine told me. They are too selfish and short sighted to recognize the damage that they are not only doing to their victim, but to the real rape and assault victims out there. Keep that in mind when looking at the Duke Lacrosse scandal.
All it takes is an accusation to destroy an innocent person's life. Sometimes a false accusation can even kill.
For another story along those lines see this article by Kathleen Parker called Sex, lies, and prison.